A shy girl's guide to pulling


So you're single and, well, not always ready to mingle. From one shy girl to another (though some of this advice would work for shy guys, too), here's what you've got to do to pull.

Actions speak louder than words

At risk of sounding like a Mum here, this is true. If you're shy, words don't come naturally. But they don't have to. If you show someone you're interested, then they'll know. Like Sebastian from The Little Mermaid says, "Pucker your lips (like this) and bat your eyelashes (like this)".

Fake it 'til you make it

Not the most confident of people? Well, nobody needs to know that you're not. Put on a big smile, bring out your best moves, surround yourself with people who bring out the best in you. Trust me; confidence can be infectious. If that doesn't work, a little liquid courage doesn't hurt.

Don't say no to tech

I've seen Catfish, and I know online things don't work always work out. However, if you're not ready to spend dates awkwardly finding something to talk about, start with talking online or texting. You'll get to know the person and, maybe, feel more comfortable opening up.

Let them do the talking

If you're not comfortable talking your way to a pull, let them take the lead. If you see someone you fancy, go up to them and let them take the lead. That way you can figure them out and talk when you're ready (or get out when you don't like them as much as you thought).

No flying without wings (read: wingman)

Wingmen and wingwomen aren't just the stuff of cringe-inducing American movies - if you don't know how to talk yourself up to a prospective pull, then get someone else to do it for you. Plus, they can figure out if the guy or girl you've had your eye on is worth it without you having to do the hard work. So you can sit on the sidelines nursing a vodka coke, looking fit.

So girls (and guys), no need to use your voice to pull. Use these tips instead and (fingers crossed) you should be coupled up in no time!

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