1 week, 2 days ago

The dos and don’ts of pulling at Uni.

Do mingle with everyone.

Getting to know everyone is the best way to meet someone who you genuinely want to pull. If you're out to pull, don't settle for the first person who seems interested or that you're attracted to. Take your time, speak to people, make sure you feel comfortable. Not only is this safer, but it's also way better sleeping with someone who you've actually enjoyed speaking to first.

Don't get with the most extroverted person at the party.

The biggest extrovert at the party comes with the biggest fans, meaning that the majority of guys and girls will also be lusting for him. You’re most likely fighting a losing battle here - the extrovert knows they’re loved and are a little too big for their boots. There’s a high chance the following morning that everyone will remember this one for being overly cocky and embarrassing at the centre of the party. You don’t want to be known as one of the people who was going after them, do you?

Do experiment

At Uni, no one is judging anyone else for who they get with or what they’re up to generally. In fact, I recently witnessed a couple exchanging chewed up bread between each other’s mouths while smooching in the corner (so if you fancy acting like a mother and baby bird then go ahead). Uni is the chance to experiment sexually - avoid being afraid.

Don't go for the standard guy or girl

Dig deeper than this – find someone better for you than the generic f**kboy or girl we all know and secretly love. They’ve been with every person you know, and they are most likely snap chatting at least five potential shags at a time to see who they can get it from that night. This type of person typically doesn’t have a care in the world for a single partner and makes it their mission to hook up with as many people as possible. Unless you’re keen to gain a few STD’s and a mountain of regret, avoid this one.

Do look out for the quiet ones.

Contrary to the extroverted one, the quiet one who sits in the corner or looks as if they are out of their depth in a social situation, might, in fact, be the one you want to speak to. They aren’t grinding on others, they’re not attempting to be the one who gains all the attention and best of all they’ll have plenty of conversation to share with you. If they’re not up for speaking, fair enough, but you won’t know it until you try. What have you got to lose?

Don't hook up with a flatmate or classmate.

You’ve heard it again and again and no doubt there's a few of us who have made the mistake time and time again. If you’re super keen to get with a flatmate or someone on your course, be prepared for the excruciatingly awkward exchanges that may follow. A flatmate may not be so bad to hook up with as you can escape after a year (if we’re talking student halls), but a classmate, however, will surround you for your whole life at Uni. There’s no escaping it unless you physically drop out of your course. My best advice: don’t do it.

What sort of pulling experiences have you had? Let me know in the comments.

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